Turn that frown upside down

Life can be so hard….

for the past few years I have dealt with a lot and for all those years I had just wished I could go back in time and erase everything that had happen that caused all that pain and anger. However the other day I was thinking over this and I realized because of the pain I have had in these few years not only have I learnt more about myself but also how to deal with different types of people ! Everything I have gone through and everything that has made me feel horrible, miserable and devastated has taught me something important.

Now I’m not going to go through all of them and point out one by one where I learned something because that would mean ripping the barley healed scars I have and reveal some personal information.

However if you’re reading this and you have also dealt with depression you will completely understand what I have meant so far.

You probably don’t agree with it..but you understand it

See if you are dealing with depression heres my outlook and advice on it:

I learned the hard way that NO ONE and I mean no one or thing was going to help me out during this time. Sure you may have friends and family who tell you they love you or that they are here for you but the truth is that those friends may not last that long and you can’t always depend on your family for everything.

You need to learn a way to make this easier on yourself.

At this point you might be thinking that there is no way out, or no way to make this easier, trust me … there is.

And that’s not with drugs or friends or people or things you think you can rely on! I cannot exaggerate  this enough that this whole thing depends on you! 

You will eventually reach a point in your life where you think I am tired of all the tears and pain and I wish it would all end and let me tell you that although death seems like a good idea at that moment… it’s not.

These are some ways if you want to see if this works, and if there actually is a way to feel better, however before I start let me state this: I am not saying depression is curable I am saying the advice I am about to give you will make your day happier yet you need to learn how to have more of those happy days like I have and less of those days where everything becomes horrible all over again.

Okay 

1. you need to find your happy place, now that could be in your mind or it could actually exist! It could be with netflix and food or it could be in a harry potter book
2. when you find that place if you’re ever sitting there crying; stop and get to that place. It always is best when you take your sad thoughts and almost store them away and you distract yourself for a few minutes until you either you forget about them or they aren't as sad anymore
3. have some YOU days. On these days you usually spend time taking care of not only your physical health but also mental health! These days could be going out and running or biking and during that time thinking deep thoughts …. or if your not athletic like me you could turn physical health into beauty …health? like put on a face mask and have a bath while thinking about those…deep thoughts….
4. know that it is completely fineeeee to not be okay for a while! Everyone is entitled to a pity party once in a while however you need to remember that its not a pity party forever but for a little bit! so feel sad, but after a few hours or a day… go out! watch your favourite movie/ TV show! Go to your happy place and try to stop the negativity 

Now for this rant I either inspired you or you probably think I’m crazy however I have dealt with depression and these steps have helped shrink my demons and sometimes they do come back and I feel stupid for ever trying to run away from them however once I do those four steps I am glad I did what I did because life is so much more than what you’re making out of it right now , trust me.

This was longer than I thought and I hope it helped and if  you ever need to talk make sure to tell me I AM here!

xx